"If you do not know what you feel, then it is difficult to choose love; it is better to fall. Then you do not have to be responsible for your actions.(hooks 194)"
Something from my women's studies (and no, women's studies/feminism is not about men haters...it's about equality for women) textbook revealing how some people think. That's exactly what I choose to do.
"To love somebody is not just a strong feeling- it is a decision, it is a judgment, it is a promise. If love were only a feeling, there would be no basis for the promise to love each other forever. A feeling comes and it may go...The desire to love is not itself love. Love is as love does. Love is an act of will- namely, both an intention and action. Will also implies choice. We do not have to love. We choose to love. (194)"
"It was difficult for me to really take out a piece of paper and evaluate myself to see if I was able to give the love I wanted to receive. And even more difficult to make a list of the qualities I wanted to find in a mate. I listed ten items. And then when I applied the list to men I had chosen as potential partners, it was painful to face the discrepancy between what I wanted and what I had chosen to accept. We fear that evaluating our needs and then carefully choosing partners will reveal there is no one for us to love. Most of us prefer to have a partner who is lacking than no partner at all. What becomes apparent is that we may be more interested in finding a partner than in knowing love. (194)"
That made me feel a little bit better...seeing as to how I'm picky about "finding the right person". Who knows if he even exists? Funny how I'm not a picky person when it comes to other things...but I guess playing in the field of love is not something to be taken lightly.
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